Okay, this is probably going to be a controversial take on sugar dating but this is an important conversation that I think we need to have. I think so many people see sugar dating as a job.
And you can't help but think that because you're trained to think: making money => a job => a rate that you have to put on yourself.
But I want you to know what you're doing that you're allowing someone to see you for one thing. And the one thing is sadly somewhat replaceable.
But if you make it about the relationship, you can show up as your multifaceted self. And I'm not talking about boyfriend and girlfriend in the traditional relationship sense. I just mean there has to be some form of friendship, trust, and mutual understanding that you guys have.
Because there's so much more to you than just the "services" that you're willing to provide.
When you put a price on yourself it's a short term way of thinking. You'll attract people who are also looking for short term gains. And I know I don't have to tell you this, but I want to remind you that you are fucking priceless. Don’t let delusional people take away your light.
And look, I'm not saying that you don't have every right to have expectations from your partner. You deserve to be taken care of. And you deserve to know that the guy is not going to be wasting your time and that he is serious about providing for you.
But I think you can really only have that conversation and understand the extent to what he can do for you until you guys get to know each other. And trust me when you find the person that sees you for you, they'll want to add to your life. And the amount that they're willing to add is far greater than what they're willing to pay for one date alone.
If you want to hustle you have every right to do that. But let me just tell you, it is honestly so tiring to constantly having to be going on dates. A lot of the times you feel this pressure to show up perfectly and put on this performance. And that's a lot of emotional labor on top of that, and you constantly have to work for it. And you're probably going to burn out.
So weigh out your options and figure out what the best approach is for you because there is no right answer.
Just be smart. Be safe.